Friday, May 06, 2016

My Aji

In memoriam
Pramila K. Prabhu

Our Aji

We lost our beautiful, loving Aji today, 5 days before her 84th birthday.

My connection with Aji began with love, but grew with food. She was a chef extraordinaire and I was (am) a glutton. She was the one who inculcated a love for food in me- May that be her chirote and Diwalicha faral that she made every year in spite of her work schedule or her kolambi bhaat and crab masala that she froze for me and sent me every time she could.

A voracious reader who could tell you anything from the political agendas and economic policies in India to the latest gossip about film and tv stars.

But, only when asked.. Her solitude and quiet nature were not to be mistaken for as a weakness. This quiet gave her the strength- in the many many twists and turns that life threw at her. And yet she remained, calm and strong.

A born teacher and mentor to many, she was especially proud of our scholastic achievements. Perhaps because she saw her own dreams being fulfilled by us.

She passed quietly, just as she would - we were blessed to have you as our beloved Aji. Where ever you are, we want you to know- you were an inspiration and our strength, and you will be missed dearly. May God take good care of you.

Rest in peace, Aji.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Best pumpkin bread ever..

Grease 3 medium (8x4) or 2 large loaf pans well (pam works best)

Set oven to 350 degrees


Sift together and set aside:
2 1/2 cups all purpose flour
1 1/2 teaspoons salt
2 teaspoons baking soda
1 teaspoon each cinnamon, nutmeg, and ground cloves

Combine:
4 eggs beaten
2 cups sugar
1 cup packed light brown sugar (not dark)
1 cup vegetable oil
2/3 cup cold water
1 lb. can pumpkin (16 oz)


Mix in dry ingredients. I usually mix this all in with a whisk until combined. Don't leave too many lumps, but don't over mix. You can also add walnuts at this point if you like. About a 1/2 cup is enough. Put in greased pans and cook for 1 1/4 hours. I usually check this at about 50 minutes. A skewer or toothpick should come out clean. Sometimes your oven might cook faster and it depends on what size pans you use. Let cool on rack for 10-20 minutes in the pans, then turn onto rack to cool completely. Make sure you cover tightly with saran wrap when cooled so they don't dry out.

Apne aap visit

My colleague is researching a very interesting topic for a joint project with various foundations. The topic is a little controversial to say the least. The organizations want to look into human trafficking in India. My foundation primarily works in HIV prevention and given that most trafficked individuals are young girls who've just reached puberty, this population is a high risk target audience for my foundation. Thus there is a deep interest in serving them and hence my colleague is researching the entire prostitution cycle, right from the time a girl enters the trade till the time she manages to escape.

While presenting her research, my colleague shared many factoids about this industry, which I found very scary and disturbing. Facts such as the girl when trafficked is most probably between the ages of 10- 15. Most often relatives act as buyers and pay the child's parents a one time amount ranging anywhere from $30- $100. If not a relative, sometimes when the girl is married, her husband sells her to the pimps at a similar price. Once in the city, the relative sells her to a brothel - an unorganized one most often, where he receives $1000 for the girl. The girl is then mentally and physically abused and turned submissive, and sold to clients. A virgin fetches ~$100 for the brothel, and the rates vary according to the girls beauty and age. As women grow older, they hardly make Rs 100, which is around $2.5 per client and cater to 4- 5 clients on a good day. Thus, if they work 20 days a week, they make an average salary of Rs 8000 ($200) per month, which is a bit more than what a domestic help earns in nice areas in urban India.

I had an opportunity to visit a shelter built by Apne aap, an organization which has been mentioned in several women's rights books. The founder herself is a very inspiring personality and has been a prominent activist in women's rights movements at the national and international level. She has opened around 10 shelters in red light areas across the country, and provides education and vocational training to prostituted women and their children.

I visited their Najafgarh shelter. Najafgarh is about 40 min from Delhi. Ironically, the shelter is based in a small village called Prem Nagar, which is one of the red light villages in the area. The village was once inhabited by shepherds. As urbanization grew, there were no farmlands and grazing areas, and their sheep died. The men were mostly alcoholics and drug addicts and had no skills to earn a living. The women of the village were then forced to enter prostitution. A few of them initiated the trade and started earning a lot of money. Once the husbands saw this, they started sending their women on the highway close by to earn a living for the family. Since the village is located near the highway and an army cantonment, there is no dearth of clients for the women. They often wake up in the middle of the night around 3 am, form groups of 4- 5 and stand on the highway. They get back home by dawn and tend to their large families. If the mother is tired all day and is asleep, the older children take care of their younger siblings.

We had an opportunity to visit the shelter, a few homes and got to talk to the women and the chief of the shelter.

The shelter was a 2 room shelter with a small yard in the front. About 10 girls aged 10- 18 were sitting there for their daily English lesson. The teacher was this Israeli West bank settler (which infuriated my Lebanese colleague) who was clueless about what was expected of her or about the organization in general and was teaching basic English to these girls. While learning English, the girls were also fiddling with a sewing machine which the organization had provided them for 'vocational training'. A young girl from Harvard was present there too. She had received grants of $12000 and $15000 in the past two years and had donated her time and money to the community to start vocational training. She had received excellent progress reports from the chief of staff about the progress of the shelter and trainings, however was completely let down when she arrived in India a week ago. The women never came to the shelter. The vocational training was a joke, where a tailor came 2 days a week and taught how to make handkerchiefs, and the English teachers were temps who kept coming and going every month!

The village itself was very filthy, with trash everywhere and pigs frolicking around in open drains. In the middle of this filth was a beautiful house, newly built and painted..when I asked who it belonged to, the chief of staff proudly said, "Oh its mine! I just built it this January" :) Wonder where the Harvard grant went! Towards a beautiful cause I guess.

This experience raised a lot of thoughts in my mind and my colleagues and I had an interesting conversation thereafter. Fistly, the women will choose to change their ways only if their new vocations were to provide a livelihood which equals or exceeds their current income. These vocation changes will not happen in a few days or months or even years; this would need deeper skill building and a will to stay away from selling themselves. Given that they have no shame left about selling their bodies, and that their peers and community encourage this behavior, there is no social stigma and hence no societal pressure to give up their livelihood. The will to change their vocation is low, and so is the skill, and thus upskilling will take a lot of efforts. It might be best to forget the older generation and focus on upskilling the young girls in the target group of 12- 18 years. Skills that will provide the women a social stature and a fixed income every month would be a better skill set than a vocation which will need them to search work for themselves. A segmented approach needs to be employed for the young girls. Students interested in studying further should be encouraged and provided coaching for specific topics they might be struggling in. A variety of trainings should be offered- such as training for managing their own money, basic accounting, beautician training, making and selling household food products to cooperatives, sewing skills etc. These can be further cemented by bringing role models from these vocations to show the girls what success looks like in these areas. A choice of these trainings would provide a vision for their own futures and could help create a 'will' for doing something different with their own lives.
There are other ways to rehabilitate the group but in my mind, a strong commited sponsorship from a single organization with a focused approach and continuity in the social workers could do wonders for this community.

Monday, August 01, 2011

Pav Bhaji

Ingredients
1. 2 large potatoes
2. 2 large onions
3. 3 tomatoes
4. 2 Green peppers
5. 4 Green chillies
6. 1/2 Cauliflower
7. 1 cup peas
8. 1/2 small squash
9. 2 carrots, sliced
10. 2 tsp ginger garlic paste
11. 3 tsp Pav bhaji masala
12. 1 tsp Turmeric
13. 2 tsp chilli powder
14. 2 cloves
15. 1 tsp amchur
16. 1 tsp jeera
17. 2 tsp coriander powder
18. Hotdog buns or Pav bhaji bread
19. Oil
20. Butter

Recipe
1. Boil potatoes, carrots, squash, peas together
2. Cut onion, tomatoes, green peppers in small pieces
3. Heat oil, in the oil fry onion, garlic ginger paste till onion is pink
4. Add green peppers and chillies, and fry for 5 more min
5. Add tomatoes, all the masalas and salt
6. After 10 min on medium heat, add boiled vegetables and add some water, bring to boil
7. Garnish with coriander and serve hot with hot toasted bread


Sunday, August 01, 2010

Jeera Aloo

Recipe for 2

Ingredients
Ghee 2 tbsp
Jeera 2 tsp
Green chillies 2
Potatoes 4 medium size
Amchur powder 1 tsp
Haldi 1 tsp
Hing 1 pinch
Dhania powder 2 tsp


Method

Boil potatoes. Peel and cut. Heat ghee, add hing, jeera, green chillies, potatoes, dhania powder, haldi, salt to taste and amchur on top. Serve hot.

Achari bhindi

Recipe for 4

Ingredients
Bhindi 500 gms
Tomatoes 2
Saunf 1 tsp
Hing 1 pinch
Mustard seeds 1 tsp
Kalaounji (Black cumin) 1 tsp
Cloves 2
Garam masala powder 1 tsp
Haldi 1 tsp
Red chilli powder 1 tsp
Jeera powder 1 tsp
Dhaniya powder 1 tsp
Salt to taste
Oil to fry


Method
Cut Bhindi and tomatoes in long pieces. Deep fry bhindi. In a different vessel, add oil, and all chounk masala to the oil. Add Bhindi and then tomatoes. Add remaining masalas on top. Let it cook on medium flame for 5 min.


Monday, July 05, 2010

Dal Baati

Recipe for 4 servings

Ingredients

For Dal:
- 1/2 cup tur dal
- 1/2 cup chana dal
- 1/2 cup green moong dal
- 1/2 cup red masoor dal
- 1/2 cup udal dal

For tempering:
- 1 tsp ghee
- 1 tsp jeera
- 1 pinch hing
- 1 tsp haldi
- 2 tsp chilli powder
- 1 badi elaichi
- 1 bay leaf
- 2 cloves
- 1 tsp garlic (optional)

For Baati:
- Flour 4 cups
- Salt to taste
- Ghee as needed
- Malai as needed
Consistency should be thicker than roti


Instructions:
For Dal:
Make dal as usual, add tempering


For Baati:
- Mix wheat flour, salt, with ghee and water to a thick consistency
- Make small balls
- Preheat over at 400F
- Keep baati for 15 min, with a little ghee on each baati

Serve with sugar or chilly pickle

Dal Palak

Recipe for 4 servings

Ingredients:
1/2 bowl chana dal
1/2 bowl udad dal
1/2 bowl tur dal
1/2 bowl moong dal (green, with cover)
2 bowls spinach

For tempering
2 teaspoons ghee
1 tsp jeera
1 pinch hing
2 cloves
1 bay leaf
1 badi elaichi
2 teaspoons garam masala
2 tsps red chilli powder
1 tsp haldi
1 tsp coriander powder

Instructions:

- Mix all lentils and wash them properly.
- Soak them for half an hour.
- Now boil them in 4 cup water with salt, spinach, hing and turmeric powder in a pressure cooker.
- When cooked properly remove it from the flame.
- Heat ghee in a pan and crackle cumin seeds, cloves, bay leaf, elaichi and asafoetida in it.
- Then add red chilly powder, garam masala and coriander powder and mix it with lentils.
- Finely chop coriander and sprinkle on lentil.
- Add lemon juice and serve hot.



Saturday, December 19, 2009

Wharton experiences



In the past four months, I've experienced a whirlwind of experiences. The opportunity to learn about the world in a great school with distinctive people from diverse backgrounds has been a blessing. A few memorable moments at Wharton so far have been- spending every summer evening socializing with my 865 other classmates; attending the learning team retreat in Iroquois springs and playing fun team building games; attending the art museum gala; running an electric car company as a simulation for leadership; having CEOs come talk to us in class; hearing the CEO of Chipotle, Martha Stewart, John Thain, speak at CEO lectures; attending the Phillies game; attending a theater workshop and a meditation workshop; snow in Rittenhouse park; the weekend hangouts with the desi gang; fun in the classroom with the cohort; the umpteen themed parties- white, 80s, follywood, Halloween, prom; - but the best of all have been the random small dinners with 8 - 10 people at someone's place or at a Philly BYOB, which have helped me make a few close friends with similar interests. The people, the variety of activities and ample time on my hands are all making sure I have a blast here at Wharton.

Cheers to a successful semester and 1/4th of an MBA!

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Locals in Peru

The hospitality, sincerity and simplicity I saw in the rural areas in Peru simply awed me. My husband and I celebrated our 2nd anniversary up in the Andes. Our friends surprised us by a simple cake baked by a hardworking cook. He took special efforts, woke up really early and baked a cake without an oven! It was a truly special anniversary. The locals made it extra special- a little girl with a beautiful smile, a small mischievous boy and a yound lad with a sweet voice sang and made our day!



We had carried a few gifts- crayons, notebooks, soccer balls with us for the kids. The attraction for all materialistic things is universal! The kids came running when we opened the goody bags. We played soccer with the kids. A very unique quality to note was that the young boys returned the soccer ball after playing! They just didn't relaize it was a gift for them. The honesty of returning something that didn't belong to them touched all our hearts.
We were then invited to a local house to see how the locals lived. The simplicity in their ways was evident in the house. The only source of entertainment was a broken 15 year old casette recorder. The one room house was built of mud and hay and had a clay oven in a corner. They offered us baked potatoes and macaroni for lunch. The man of the house is a shepherd and the women made a few handicrafts and worked in the community farms. This close knit community of Patacancha was a wonderful way to end our Lares trek.